Special Fathers’ Day Wishes

A moment, for some special Fathers’ Day wishes:

Fathers in the Military
It’s a life you chose, and it has taken you far away. You fight for not only our freedom and rights, but for those of your children. You sacrifice being with your family, and risk the ultimate sacrifice while doing so. May all you give up for your child never be forgotten. Happy Fathers’ Day.

Fathers Gone Too Soon
Whether your child was yet unborn, or fully grown, your life here with us ended too soon. But in your time with us, you brought life into this world. You made a contribution that remains, that grows, and that reminds us of you. Circumstances beyond your control took you away, but our thoughts of you remain constant and loving. Happy Fathers’ Day

Fathers that Stepped Up
You came into the life of a child somewhat unexpectedly. When you met their mother you knew it was a package deal; a woman you grew to care about, and her child. Whether or not that child’s father was there, you gave of yourself. You let them know that you cared, and that you were, you are, someone they could look up to, and count on. Happy Fathers’ Day

Because you Father
You give so much in all that you do. You give more of yourself than anyone should have too, and you do it not because you must, but because you love. You make sure that your child is taken care of, and ensure that they know they are loved. You fill the gap created by the absence of another, and you help to minimize the feeling that there is something missing. Because the man that contributed to your child’s existence is not there, fully or in part, whatever the circumstances of their absence, you ensure your child has all they would “normally” get. Not because you are a “father”, but because you father your child. Thank you for being that parent that not only mothers their child, but “fathers” them as well. To the mom’s that do it all…


I’m Baaaaaack….

For the past couple of weeks, events IRL (in real life) have been taking me away from my online presence. There’s been a lot that has happened and though I’ve been anxious to write it all, I just haven’t had the time.  But now…

I’m catching up on everything, pulling myself out of the funk that I’ve been in, and getting back to the me that has focus, direction and purpose.  A renewed determination to get back in the game of life if you will.

Look for several posts in the coming days, including my completion of the series I started reflecting upon my relationship with my daughter; a new high school graduate.

And So It Begins

There are some events that have occurred in my life that are very easy for me to recall.  They are memories that give me pleasure to recall, or that are a very significant point in my life. These events usually concern my children.  As we head into the final days of my daughter’s years in high school these events are flashing through my consciousness at an ever increasing rate, and I’m swimming a sea of emotions and memories.  Over the next couple of days I will be writing these memories of my life with her so far.

The Beginning Read more of this post

June Wants To Kick My Ass

I should’ve seen this coming; June wants to kill me. Multiple events per day on multiple occasions. Family obligations. Friends who I haven’t seen in awhile and really want too — but probably won’t be able to. New friends that I’d like to meet in real life, but that also looks unlikely. I’m still trying to figure out if this was bad planning on my part, or is the universe trying to wear me down and stress me out. Let’s look at my calendar for the month after the jump… Read more of this post

Lest We Forget…

Memorial Day.  Observed in the United States of America by most people as another 3-day weekend.  A paid day off.  A day to BBQ, go to the beach/lake, party on Flag of the United States of AmericaSunday because you don’t work on Monday, and in general, just have fun.  Lowe’s Home Improvement is even running a radio ad stating what they think very clearly: Memorial Day is for fun and getting things done.

Lowe’s is wrong, and their ad demonstrates that too many people have forgotten why we get to do all those things on this weekend.  That they’ve forgotten, that there are generations being raised that are not being taught the meaning of Memorial Day, is just sad.  No, it’s tragic.

What is Memorial Day
Unlike Veterans Day, which is annually celebrated each year on November 11th to honor all Veterans, living and dead, Memorial Day is a day to remember and commemorate the men and women of America’s military who have died in service to our nation.

On May 5, 1868, General John Logan declared in his General Orders Number 11:

The 30th of May, 1868, is designated for the purpose of strewing with flowers, or otherwise decorating the graves of comrades who died in defense of their country during the late rebellion, and whose bodies now lie in almost every city, village, and hamlet churchyard in the land. In this observance no form of ceremony is prescribed, but posts and comrades will in their own way arrange such fitting services and testimonials of respect as circumstances may permit.

Since the late 1800’s many communities observed Memorial Day to remember those who had fallen during the Civil War.  (Many Southern States had their own day of remembrance for fallen Confederate solders.  Some states still observe such a day in addition to Memorial Day.)  After World War I, Memorial Day became a day to honor those who had died in all of America’s wars.  In 1971, Congress declared Memorial Day a a national holiday to be observed on the last Monday in May; to ensure a three day weekend.

We’ve Forgotten
In its 2002 Memorial Day address, the Veterans of Foreign Wars (VFW) stated:

Changing the date merely to create three-day weekends has undermined the very meaning of the day. No doubt, this has contributed greatly to the general public’s nonchalant observance of Memorial Day.

There is a generation that believes Memorial Day means they get a 3-day weekend simply to kick-off summer.  Another generation that believes Memorial Day is nothing more than a they get to skip school, or the day that the community pool opens.  This needs to be fixed.

Remembering, If Only For A Moment
Memorial Day is for remembering the men and women who have died in service to our country so that we may enjoy our freedom.  Flags on gravesites for Memorial DayIn 2000 the National Moment of Remembrance was established by Congress, asking all Americans to pause for a moment at 3 p.m. local time on Memorial Day in remembrance and as an act of national unity.  This moment (duration: one minute) was established to help promote the values of Memorial Day, remind us all what this day is for, and to help ensure that future generations can carry that knowledge forward.

Displaying The Flag
The United States Flag Code states that the flag should be displayed on all days, but especially on 18 specific days; including Memorial Day.  The flag is to flown at half-mast until noon, at which time it is to be raised to full mast.

For my day, I plan to BBQ, have a cold beer or two, and to spend time with friends and family.  But I remember, and I will never forget, those who since the birth of our nation made the greatest sacrifice there is so that we can all have these freedoms on this day, and all year long.

So You’re Gonna Go On Match.com…

Yahoo recently announced that Match.com will become Yahoo’s online dating site provider.   This means that if you’re on Yahoo Personals and want to keep a profile up you’ll need to update your profile; if you’re not on Match.com already.  I wanted to take this opportunity to walk you through setting up a Match.com profile, and what NOT to put on it. Read more of this post

Hurting A Friend Sucks

For the past few days I’ve been absent from the online world; Twitter, Facebook, online dating sites, IM, everything.  I had a lot on my mind after my not-as-anonymous-as-I-would-like Twitter account was found by a friend of mine, and her realization that a tweet I had made was about her; a not so flattering tweet.  The tweet hurt her feelings, and that upset me.  So for the past few days I’ve been busy considering what to do with my identity — keep it or let the whole thing go — and trying to figure out if this whole “writing a blog” thing was worth it. Read more of this post

I’d Rather Not Talk to You

Over in the twitterverse I recently saw the question posed:

Any iPhone users know of anyway to block a specific number from your phone?

After a quick cursory search of the internet I was unable to find anything better than the solution I’ve been using, so I thought I’d share. Read more of this post

Guilt, or Not Guilt

Yesterday I had a chance to spend a little time with one of my sisters and one of my fathers, but I didn’t.  I made a conscious choice not to, and that kind of bummed me out.  Not because I feel bad for the choice I made, but because I don’t feel bad.

The Reader’s Digest backstory
My family tree is pretty confusing; think banyon tree.  I’m a reunited adoptee, and the child of divorce parents, and my dad is remarried, and I have step siblings, and… lets just say that Hallmark loves me.  Unfortunately, last year my my birth-father had a stroke and is currently in an assisted care situation.  Wait, I need to back up further…

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Algebra In The Dating World

A few weeks ago, I was contacted by someone much younger than myself; a 20 year-old, who we’ll call TY.  I figured this must be some kind of spammer, Nigerian 419 scam, or someone with “services available to a generous gentleman”, because seriously I cannot picture a 20 year-old attempting reach out to me.  So I played along and replied to the e-mails.  It was all too perfect: she lived in my town, she’s just looking for new “friends”, and according to her my profile made it seem like “it would be fun to get together”.  Uh huh.  A total scam.  Having worked in then computer security field I was very careful not to reveal any identifiable information about myself: I have alternate e-mail aliases, IM accounts, means to text message, and even a different phone number to give out if that were ever necessary.  So lets play.